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aita for uninviting my stepdad

aita for uninviting my stepdad

Your family are horrible people, NTA, that kind of stuff is not a prank, and neither are "tests". Your dad should be proud if he actually values those things and it truly is why tested your fianc. Theyre just acting sorry because youre making a stink about it. My mom's husband who he despises for no good reason but has helped heal so many of my scars and has been more of a father figure will also be in attendance. Also, ask them in case of your fiancs asthma getting worse medically if he would have been rushed to hospital which one of them would be manly enough to cover all the bills and charges. Do not compromise on this, theyre irredeemable assholes. NTA its bullshit toxic masculinity, men do not test each other like this unless they have frail egos themselves. I got into the college I wanted to go to, but passed on it to go to community college at home to save money. Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. Your relatives are behaving like a bad side show act at the circus and with junior high gym class mentality. I suggest you tell them that you understand that they're intimidated by someone with a real education and who idea of fun isn't dumb jock humour but that you move beyond such immature behaviour and they're out of your life altogether until they apologise to TIM and if they ever "prank" him again they out for ever. NTA at all. I was thinking that no way in hell I would let that man go alone into the woods with these chuckleheads for 3 minutes let alone 3 days after listening to all the horrible things they said and done. Handed his corpse over to you like sorry, he wasnt man enough to survive? Not if OP also makes fake invites to the wrong venue. Typical snowflakes if you ask me. Call them out intellectually or use their fear against them and watch how they retract. But OP is NTA. I told him no because I need to go to work. Id have bounced at the slashing tires. What's worse is, I can see people like this waiting for future opportunities for "man tests" at family events going forward. Time to go no contact / extremely low contact. Nobody can be that stupid. That kind of behavior is toxic and pervasive. Also, his son lived with us for three months and hates my mom and I simply because she didnt enable him like his father does. But Tim is a Saint he has put up with that bullying. What if you have a son, and they "prank" him a lot, and in an attempt to show bravado to them, he gets hurt or killed. I hadnt seen a doctor in a decade due to lack of health care and this guy straight up told me he hasnt either even after a heart attack. My parents pride themselves on being do-it-yourself. Your family sucks. Bringing you the freshest and best posts from r/AmItheAsshole Timestamps:0:00 - AITA for causing my sister to no longer have her college paid for?2:14 - AITA. Lets cut the brake lines to see if hes a real man who can use the emergency brake! Your question shouldn't be about uninviting your asshole family, it should be Stick with your opinion you are not exaggerating. Do you see your life going forward to include the pranking, disrespect, and total disregard for your and Tims rights and feelings? They can be the sweetest people, but they are also the most judgemental and mean to the point I have a screwed up perspective of "teasing" due to them. Just they just seem like big bullies to me. OP has some gumption. I think the best thing you could do for yourself is to go no-contact with your father. I finally gave up and told him that I will not continue to be subjected to his abuse and he's no longer welcome in my life. What type of relationship does your dad have with your siblings? Do they not know how many people die from asthma attacks? If you listen to your mom and re-invite them, you don't deserve your fiance. Thank you for writing this so that I didnt have to. Please view our voting guide here, and remember to use only one judgement in your comment. They were okay with killing or seriously harming your husband. I hope she doesnt cut off the family for him, but for herself. Also when I had no health insurance I almost was literally about to die of the paramedics where a few minutes late then they where. I was his tail as a child and went with him everywhere, people knew me as the apple of his eye. Sorry, this post was deleted by the person who originally posted it. It doesn't matter. Managing your family is your job, and you were somehow ok with the constant insults, belittling questions, slashing of tires, etc. Tell them that your wedding is childfree and they can come when they grow up. I dont see how he can maintain a proper level of mental health while being involved with your toxic family members. After she hung up I asked my fiance if I made the wrong decision and je said it's my wedding and I get to decide eventually but I knew he said that because he's biased. Best of luck!! I was thinking "surely there must be a law against hidng someone's medication, that could be so fucking dangerous. NAH But honestly you have to have a talk with her and explain what youre feeling. NTA, in my opinion you're getting a pretty good deal, cutting one toxic member of your family out and a few enablers are going with them. Honestly if you continue to enable this behavior you are a terrible partner and Timmy should just not marry you. There is also a difference between a prank and stealing a serious medical device, such as an inhaler. Tim most love you to bits to put up with all this sheee-itte coz Id be gone after they slashed my tyres.you are 100% NTA here your family sound mental. I would contact to acquire an admission of guilt and then take them to court. As an asthmatic myself I agree with doing this. Who are they to judge masculinity? If i were Tim, Id be very wary about marrying into your family. I just cant believe people can be like this. Send them all links for information about consequences of their behaviour regarding his inhaler. The recipient should be laughing just as hard as the prankster and any observers. I hope he realizes that unless you stand up for him and put your dumb ass family in their place - he should move on. Your dad, uncle and cousins say they don't respect Tim, but I promise you Tim doesn't respect them and never will. I could definitely see these assholes trying to cover something like that up. I've had male coworkers of a certain age come to work with unrelenting chest pain. 8.6K views, 64 likes, 0 loves, 68 comments, 3 shares, Facebook Watch Videos from Reddit Addiction: AITA for uninviting my stepdad from my wedding so my. Fixing cars or whatever is a "manly" thing to do, but even if they can fix cars, there is nothing manly about these guys. What your sister did was shitty, she let you down and made you waste 90. Will they do this to him?? Im surprised youre the first person to say all this. I, unfortunately, made the mistake of giving in and inviting my father to my graduation. It's usually even worse with family. Tim has to proof himself to nobody except maybe you and since you choose him I assume he's proven himself. You dont hide an inhaler away from someone. NTA, this is taking toxic masculinity to another level. Let her tell dad and let him digest that. madera county sheriff log 2022 cigna stock price history; hornby r3207. I completely agree. NTA. I wouldn't be surprised if intentionally hiding a medical device is illegal too, it certainly should be. You are absolutely correct, there is a big difference between prancing and bullying, and OPs family is on the wrong side of that gap. He sounds like an absolute caveman needing to prove physical prowess to compensate for knowing your partner is clearly intellectually superior. I dont any men who pull the crap your family did. Cut ties with everyone, save your poor poor fiance more pain then the abuse he already went trough for you, and apologize to him in behalf of your family. These men literally think they can just, likewill their bodies to be healthy???? Sorry youre going through this OP. If you still get married don't be surprised if he wants to get out of every family gathering etc if he can to avoid them. (English is not my mother tongue, sorry for the spelling), So if he had an asthma attack, and had to be hospitalized, I guess they would deduce hes weak? Yup, this is essentially hazing someone who doesn't even want to be in their stupid frat. Who slashes tyres as a prank? Proving it was "nothing" by supposedly powering through completely unnecessary pain?? You should cut them off. You cant be around these people at all, and you sure as hell cant ask Tim to risk his health and safety for the sake of pretending that your family is just a little quirky or whatever. If I was Tim I'd never see them again, and while I wouldn't or couldn't stop you from being in contact with them, I couldn't understand why you would want to. Oh gotcha, that makes much more sense then. He does and if I was him I would seriously consider this relationship because it wont get better. By rejecting non-essential cookies, Reddit may still use certain cookies to ensure the proper functionality of our platform. Most of us bigger people would have had them charged with vandalism and just stopped engaging with them. Yeah, NTA. I literally freaked out because I definately want my brothers to be at my wedding so badly and I tried talking to them but they were being stubborn, after talking to my fiance I had no choice but to politely uninvite my stepdad and sending him an email stating why. You think they are the only part of the family like this? Read this before contacting the mod team. Aita for uninviting my parents to my wedding; quad cortex neural dsp price; the forest fly command; python flush output; salvage car auction virginia; the book of psalms explained pdf; heineken hoodie; steel pipes suppliers in uae. They could have killed him. Yep, that guy sure loves OP for putting up with her AH family. Was thinking the same. Also, ask them in case of your fiancs asthma getting worse medically that he needed to be rushed to hospital which off them would be manly enough to cover all the bills and charges. Also tell your mom you didn't ruin the relationship, they did with their attitude and nobody else gets a say, your decision is final and they have to be "man enough" to accept the consequence of their childish actions. English? That's alright up bullying. Your family is criminally dangerous. Lots of things can go wrong and they have no idea how big it can be until it hits them on the head. Slashing tires isnt a prank. Its destruction of private property and vandalism. Organized bullying isn't funny or a prank. And if I were you, I'd take a real close look at the abuse they've subjected you to. Tow it to a tire shop. Nta for uninviting them, because its Tim's wedding too and I wouldn't want people at my wedding who might abuse me. The notion that someone should be concerned about how much of a man your fiance is is just outrageous, and you should've tried to put an end to it at their first "prank". Most of us grow out of that around puberty, and those that don't absolutely deserve to feel the consequences of their poor choices because what excuse do they have? If I were Tim, I'd have been long gone when she didn't put a stop to it after the first round of "tests.". I was livid and called him out, but argued with my mother about it and about how she allowed this to happen. Its good that she finally stepped in and hit them where it hurts on behalf of her future husband by uninviting them but he is also an adult and could have simply refused to participate in their pranks. Fuck that noise. I would've called police on them after the tire incident. Abuse. Hey OP, your family sucks big time. If your mother had no input in this I'd have gone with E-S-H instead. shes 16 and knows what shes doing, but i could be overreacting. Dude's absolutely like this with avoiding healthcare of any kind (conspiracy nut who's spiraled imo in the last few years) and has bullshit rules about what he (and others) "should" be doing instead of "being lazy". edit: words are hard and i could have made my comment way simpler. Moreover, do you really want people in your life that don't believe ASTHMA is a serious medical condition. I'm sorry for what you and your fiance are going through OP. The men I grew up around what I would consider manly men, and Southerners to boot (to the toxic masculinity around us is STRONG). NTA, if I'm 'Tim ' that prank hiding my inhaler will land op 'dad, brother, cousin and uncle' in jail for attempting murder. Well done on sticking up for your partner! Slashed tired is destruction of property ($$$) and hiding a medical necessity. This doesnt sound like pranking but more like bullying. Who do they think they are? Stealing someone's effing inhaler out in the wilderness is trying to kill that person. I explained that if he just came to events and gave it a shot he would see that everyone is good now and is moving forward except him and his wife. What respect can you have for the family members pushing you to ignore this violent, aggressive and potentially harmful behavior? They need to massively apologize. It's yours. Put it back on them. Then turn it around on us like hes the victim. Your cousin, brother, uncle and dad are TA for what they have done. These are not pranks. Or the time they slashed his tired??? Sometimes that is worth the peace of mind, and sometimes it isn't. NTA. Also it sounds like your mom is desensitised to it which is sad. Holy shit your family is a bunch of assholes. NTA - definitely let this be the thing sl that ruins your relationship with your family, as your mom puts it. NTA - I would suggest checking in with your fianc on how you can best support him and letting him know you stabs by him 100% (this should include after the wedding) It seems strange that the tire slashing wasnt the last straw but it will only escalate if you bend. NTA - I cant believe these guys play chess. Also, asthma attacks can be deadly. Stay strong. He should get them all charged. You're siblings are just pissed because now they'll be targeted. NTA. Hiding an inhaler? Its a messy situation and it will most likely be a rocky marriage as your family set the tone for it with their nonsense trying to test your partners manliness. Tell them you are reporting them to the police for attempted murder and get a restraining order. Lord knows what they will pull on any kids you have. Right? NTA. I mean I am in the process of suing a doctor for exactly this. He didn't drive a wedge, they did! If they agree to the challenge, and complete it, youll consider re-inviting them to the wedding. Wouldnt it increase their respect for both of them as a couple if that despicable quartet come out of this wedding with the ULTIMATE wedding favour, aka mug shots and restraining orders? It took until they actually endangered his life for her to tell her idiot relatives to stop torturing the man she allegedly loves? Exactly. That how they drained mine, too, so maybe I got the wrong term there. This guy is going to go through an unending life of abuse if he doesn't cut and run. Tell them they need to apologize and gain respect in your eyes .. Tell them that their insecurities about how manly they are is showing loud and clear to everyone. Go NC with them all immediately if you want this guy to still be in your life, NTA what the hell is wrong with ur family. NTA. Slashing tires? But Im gonna take it a step further and say you need to talk to Tim and really make sure that hes ok after all this. Please keep discussions within the posts of this sub. The family is lucky they haven't called for a restraining order. It's helped me to learn how many families with addicts change to fit the addiction. AITA for telling my (step)dad that his kids are not welcome in my life ever again? They've done that to you too. NTA, and just go NC with the whole lot - even your mom, because she clearly supports this shit. I hate to say it, but she set him up for it. Do you guys have kids? Uninviting them to the wedding is the least thing, they're just going to retaliate for their whole lives. Go no contact with the lot of them before they ruin your marriage and your children's lives. why would you even want to remain family with a bunch of hazing, assaulting assholes? Is this the future you want? In your future husband's shoes, I'd have walked away from this relationship after it became clear being a part of your life invited stuff like this from your family, frankly, although I'm happy for you that he did stick around. I sent Dean and Kevin invitations but once they found out that our stepdad was going to be there, they said they might not come. Asthma can be lethal, especially in a wilderness situation like camping. That is what they are clear and simple and now their pranks have turned deadly. OP's family isn't awful, they are abusive. You need to cut contact and tell your mom if she doesnt see why then she gets cut as well. Got to admit that if I were Tim, Id run. They will absolutely do this and worse to your kids, to make sure they turn out "tough, not like their father". Your male family members seem to think petty crime is pranking. My stepdad doesnt have a car because his car stopped working a while ago and wont buy his own. However your an AH for letting it go on this long. "What type of relationship does your dad have with your siblings? Sounds sick to me all around. If your mom doesnt see your side dont invite her either. Me, who has autism and still got that: N0oBs, Thank you. I would completely remove my fianc from any further contact with my family if I were her. Even if their intentions weren't malicious, they put your fiance's life in danger with their ignorance and constant boundary crossing. Ask them who was going to be the one to explain to his family if he died. Just look at the way talk about him! This!! And he was abused/ hazed. From expensive property damage to verbal abuse to life threatening actions. 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